Actually you do: the nine hidden motivators….the nine enneagram types. At our very deepest level they drive what we do through our ego.
The problem with the hidden motivators is that we are generally unaware of them. Precisely because they operate at our very core. Hence the name…. They remain hidden from us until we become aware of them and start paying them attention. This often happens during a personal crisis: when we have to pay attention to them. When we are forced to look at ourselves and make some changes.
The other problem with the hidden motivators is that they drive our actions…. They limit our choices. They are that little voice, deep inside that stops us from doing things we would actually quite like to do….Or that makes us react in a way that we’re not particularly happy with.
In a nutshell, the problem with the hidden motivators is that they form an obstacle to living life to the full, in a way that we choose. This is certainly true for me and you probably recognise this in yourself as well, and in people around you and in your coachees.
But once you’ve recognised this in yourself, wouldn’t it be great if you could reduce the influence your hidden motivator has on your life? On your working and personal life?
The enneagram offers a very elegant and effective method for this. In essence, it’s a powerful tool for self-liberation, self-healing and self-realisation. A complete instrument for self-management in fact.
Why am I passionate about sharing my knowledge about this? For a start because I wouldn’t begrudge anyone the enriching and liberating journey it can offer. And secondly, because I come across so many simple tips about how we can make ourselves happier and more successful. And all these tips are very appealing. But if it was that easy, surely we wouldn’t need those tips in the first place! They’re hardly rocket science, are they?
So I’ll be honest with you, the enneagram doesn’t have such a quick fix to happiness. As a method based on so much ancient wisdom, it works at a much deeper level. At a more structural level. Less simple but more effective. It’s also more realistic – it accepts that the path to real inner happiness and success is not simple: just accepting that fact is already liberating…
So how does the enneagram method work? In a nutshell – if you can see it, you can work with it. It’s quite difficult to actually see the hidden motivator, but how it’s expressed offers a good starting point. One of the ways in which the hidden motivator expresses itself is in the form of obstructive convictions. Here are two examples per enneagram type.
type 1 – I am a good person (employee etc.) because I do my best.
I prefer to do things myself, that way I know they’ll get done properly.
type 1 – People depend on me and on my help.
I don’t need anybody, other people need me and I’m glad to be able to help them.
type 3 – Nobody loves a loser; I have to be a winner.
Feelings get in the way, they form an obstacle.
type 4 – Nobody understands me, I’m different to everybody else.
I have to stay in touch with my true self in everything I do.
type 5 – I fall short; people expect more of me than I can offer.
Knowledge can solve everything; I have to be able to think things through before taking action.
type 6 – I must be fully prepared in order to avoid surprises.
I can see where things go wrong so it’s good that I slow things down.
type 7 – I can get away and have some fun.
I don’t need to change because there’s nothing’s wrong.
type 8 – You CANNOT be vulnerable: it’s eat or be eaten.
There’s only one truth – and it’s the one I hold.
type 9 – I’m an easy-going person.
We have a great relationship: we never argue.
Which of these obstructive convictions do you recognise? How did they, or do they still, get in your way?
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