The Law of Three (or Creation) in the enneagram symbol:
- In the first blog you have read about the step, which is symbolized at point 3. In short, this was about waking up, seeing and recognizing the own identifications, and the start of the process of letting go (dis-identification).
- In the second blog you have read about the step, which is symbolized at point 6. In short, this was about inner anxieties, allergies and inhibitions that emerge during the process of dis-identification. This step is about finding inner strength and courage to withstand those unpleasant sensations, and to no longer run away, fight or numb to them.
Obviously, this could be the moment when you ask yourself: what’s left to do?
After step 3 and step 6 you are familiar with the nature of your conditioned self. You developed skills to observe, reflect on and manage yourself. These can be used to recognize and relax your conditioned self if necessary. Also, you have learned to handle inner contractions of fear and resistance. So…. what’s next? What inner work still needs to be done?
Every process requires integration, retention and closure. Otherwise, it won’t stick and the result will not be permanent. This is what the third big step in a transformative process is about. It’s symbolized at point 9.
Probably, in some way you already knew about the ancient wisdoms and spiritual laws I mentioned in earlier blogs. However, I can imagine the step belonging to point 9 doesn’t ring any bells. Therefore, I will explain it in detail. Point 9 in the enneagram symbol is special. Every point is, obviously. But this one might just be a little more extraordinary. So keep on reading because this story is about to head back to you and your path of growth!
Point 9 forms both the start and ending of every process.
A process ends here and continues in a new one. The universe is always moving and the only constant is that nothing is permanent. Inner processes work exactly the same. One starts – just like a new day – when we wake up and ends as we fall asleep.
It’s good to realize this and take it into account when looking at your own path of growth: where are you now in your process?
Point 9 is a binding point (think of type 9 in the psychological enneagram: ‘the peacemaker’). This is where old and new connect (integration). At point 6 there was a lot of inner stirring going on with emotions suddenly finding their way to the surface. That point required learning to relax and to let go.
The moment in the transformative process that follows – when fear, pain and all other emotions are endured – is one of sudden inner peace!
Feeling ‘empty inside’ is a remarkable experience in the process of growth. Suddenly there’s inner peace and balance. Also, it’s possible to become aware of an enormous inner freedom, gratitude, wholeness, inspiration, etc.
Every process that has to do with growth or development needs a period of rest, integration and retention. The gained knowledge needs to be processed. It might feel uncomfortable at first because you’re not adjusted to it yet. Neither are your friends, family or colleagues so they have to adjust to your new behaviour as well! It’s about integration in yourself and in the outside world. When you act different than you did before, people around you will have to get used to that. It’s a process of re-balancing your (new) inner world in the outside world. This phase of integration takes as long as it feels new and you’re accustoming. It ends when the behaviour has become a new habit. At that moment people often aren’t aware of what was ‘old’ and what is ‘new’.
The process will stop here when the inner world and the outside world aren’t integrated at point 9. That’s why you can look at these points as obstacles in a process. Nothing changes if not addressed properly. Therefore it’s important to take extra care with these points during the own inner process.
It feels comfy, the gloves are off and the business is done. While people enjoy their new inner peace and balance they will fall asleep again. A new mechanical state wells up which people embrace and wish to maintain. It’s in our nature to attach to a state of ‘no change’.
Want to read more about the steps in every transformative process? Download the free article in which I explain all the nine steps and give some extra background information.
I also have questions for you!
In this blog I briefly spoke about the theory belonging the third big step in every transformative process at point 9. However, I work with the enneagram in the Narrative Tradition which means your story is leading, not the theory. That’s why I, as enneagram teacher, much rather hear your story. What do you recognize from the theory in your own life/on your own path of growth?
Share your thought(s)/question(s) on one or more of the following points:
- what was your most important discovery or insight in yourself? Which given insight related to identification, belief or illusion has changed you and therefore changed your life?
- what was interesting or inspiring for you in this blog? What worked? What would you like to hear more about?
- do you have questions for me? Ask them here and I’ll gladly answer them
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