Do you take good care of yourself?
What aspects of caring for yourself do you think of when I ask this question?
If you want to and if you have the time you could list these before reading on.
10 to 1 that the things that came to mind were all related to food, exercise and rest/relaxation.
What we often don’t realise is that these things are all part of healthy energy management. To ensure that we have a healthy energy level.
What we know even less about are those things that cause us to lose energy. If we stop to think about this, we tend to assume that we lose energy doing things that cost energy, things like work or sport.
What is less well-known, or what we don’t think about very much, is that we lose the most energy through our thoughts and feelings!
Emotions use a lot of energy! So does brooding, or wondering what other people think of you, or worrying, or wanting to be liked, or wanting to understand and get to the bottom of everything, or….
In short, the expression of your type mechanism uses (unseen) energy – a lot of energy. After all, each type mechanism is a compulsive, automatic and unconscious pattern of thoughts, feelings and actions. And if you read my posts every week, you will know by now that the core of each of the types is that which they subconsciously find deeply important. And that’s what you focus on and what costs you energy.
If we live in line with our ego, we become like a leaky bucket!
The enneagram can help you to:
- become and remain aware of what causes you to lose energy;
- observe yourself when this happens or threatens to happen;
- manage yourself by enabling you to make another choice (and to change your focus or mind-set);
- fix your energy drains!
- and, if you are a coach, guide your coachees in this process.
Examples of how the nine ego structures force their type’s hand AND by doing so waste energy:
type 1 – by doing their best, by wanting to be clear and complete, by avoiding making mistakes and not being good enough, by setting the bar (too) high, by improving and changing, by brooding about things that didn’t go well, by explaining in too much detail (including about themselves) etc.;
type 2 – by wanting to be liked, by fulfilling the needs of others, by always being there for others (or the company), by networking, by organising things, by doing those things that can be valued, by social talk etc.;
type 3 – by being competent, by being seen as competent, by being and remaining successful, by completing action points, projects and goals, in being or becoming the best, by making themselves seen, by doing things which can harvest applause etc.;
type 4 – by distinguishing themselves, by searching, by searching for ways in which to connect (closely) with others, for ways to express their own individuality, for ways to do things which will be admired, by living a great and compelling life, by having in-depth conversations etc.;
type 5 – by maintaining their own autonomy, by maintaining an overview, by observing, considering, understanding and working things through, by (re)thinking about everything, by doing things which will ensure their own independence, by ensuring their own privacy etc.;
type 6 – by obtaining security and safety, by scanning for risks and dangers, by being alert to the incongruities in people’s actions and words, by asking questions, by worrying that everything can go wrong, by being prepared to deal with anything that may happen and taking whatever action is needed to avoid it happening etc.;
type 7 – by securing and maintaining their freedom, by moving away from anything that is unpleasant or limiting, by living an exciting and upbeat life, by keeping options open, by having positive and associative thoughts (‘jumping from pillar to post’), by being enthusiastic, by continuously thinking up and making great plans etc.;
type 8 – by guarding and controlling themselves and their direct surroundings, by protecting who and what they feel is worth protecting or defending, by taking on confrontations and fights, by being and remaining strong, by repairing relationships or settling disputes etc.;
type 9 – by maintaining a harmonious environment, by sounding out and anticipating what others think or want, by thinking about how to deal with this and what their own position is, by not making waves by (not) going along, by thinking about what they want to say but not saying it etc.
Tell me your story: do you recognise where you waste your energy? And how do you observe and manage this? What have you found that works for you?
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To your personal growth!
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