Have you ever had something happen in a session with a client that triggered a feeling of anger, pride, fear or reservation in you? Because of which you didn’t deal with the situation as well as (with hindsight) you know you could have if your emotional triggers had not put a spanner in the works? With the upshot that you didn’t get the result you were hoping for?
Your dominant emotional trigger pushes you into your pitfalls and forms an obstacle to your success and happiness.
We’ve known about these emotional triggers for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. They are linked to our most basic resistance to reality.
This resistance to reality takes on two forms:
- we have certain positive expectations about things or people (the pleasant things in life), which ultimately prove to be false,
- there are certain things which we hope we won’t get or won’t happen to us (the unpleasant things in life) but which in the end do.
Buddhism sees these as the root of suffering because they stimulate our emotional triggers. The basic philosophy of Buddhism is to free ourselves from the cause of suffering in order to achieve inner peace, composure, courage and so on.
Is essence, the enneagram teaches exactly the same as Buddhism but from the perspective of Western psychology and language. And unlike Buddhism, with the enneagram you don’t need to study for years to profit from it’s transformative powers.
Can you imagine how you could have dealt with the same situation with the same client if you could have transformed your anger into compassion, your pride into humility or your fear into bravery?
Understanding your dominant emotional triggers will help you avoid your pitfalls. If you know what your dominant emotional trigger is, you will be able to relax more easily and deal with it.
Each type has it’s own dominant emotional trigger. In the enneagram we call these your vices or passions.
Which emotional trigger is getting in the way of your growth and success?
type 1 – anger
type 2 – pride
type 3 – deception
type 4 – jealousy
type 5 – reserve
type 6 – fear
type 7 – extravagance
type 8 – lust
type 9 – laziness
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Here’s to your personal growth!
Jeanette van Stijn
Director Enneagram Europe